As a mom, I know how she feels....
When my son stopped saying "Amen" to prayers, it was all I could do to keep going, but I still loved him. I still talked to him, I cried every day... I cared about him.
What is it that "you have done"? That is the question?
I like to ask, "Did I disfellowship people for taking a liver transplant, then change the policy a month later?"
"Did I write a book that told people the end would come before the end of this century, and it didn't?"
"Did I tell people not to get an education, because so little time was left they would not be able to use it?"
"Did I refuse to change the pedophile policy?"
"Am I the person that had to pay out millions of dollars in court fees because of not caring "enough about the little ones?"
Then remind her that that is exactly what the Society has done, and she is holding you to a higher standard than she holds her trusted leaders.
If she can hang up the phone on YOU for simply 'not going to the meetings,' because you are disturbed by these dilemnas, will she hang up the phone on the men that caused them?